tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6505367244567483130.post6072156980415809117..comments2023-06-25T09:09:53.310-04:00Comments on Journey with the Jordans: I know you were trying to be helpful...Whitneyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16850718990935290573noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6505367244567483130.post-70483562044947676642012-02-08T19:13:37.303-05:002012-02-08T19:13:37.303-05:00First of all, I'm 99% sure that you don't ...First of all, I'm 99% sure that you don't look like a terrible mother when your kid is throwing a spectacular tantrum, and the 1% of people who might think you do have never spent any time around small children (and obviously don't remember being one themselves). Most people, even the ones who think they're helping, know that, even though you might have to literally drag your kid away from the situation, you are doing what you have to do. I've been dealing with these very situations all the time lately with Caleb, and it's getting obnoxious -- both his instinct to freak out when someone he doesn't know says hello and their instinct to keep talking to him to calm him down. I'm starting to get more blunt with these strangers and have even told a few that their help isn't helping. And then we leave. And then he calms down. And then I can calm down. And then, after a few minutes of calm, we usually repeat the process. My advice (not that you asked for it...hmm...sounds like I'm "helping", but I just can't stop myself...;) is to go ahead and be invisible if you want to be. Just walk away, whenever that's possible, dragging your screamer behind you, and go to a place where you can both block out the world and everyone in it and just calm down. A few minutes of even imagined invisibility has done a lot for my nerves lately.Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13827607152706015982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6505367244567483130.post-85701710998457324952012-02-08T18:03:50.164-05:002012-02-08T18:03:50.164-05:00ugh. did you see that report on npr a few weeks ag...ugh. did you see that report on npr a few weeks ago? about how it's been scientifically proven to be completely ineffective to try to reason with or bribe a child in the middle of a tantrum? yeah, they need to make PSA ads about that.Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09827586433437956419noreply@blogger.com